Family and friends who have been on this journey with us, the Montoya family would like to thank you for your love and continued support.
This journey would not have been bearable without all of you having our backs.
To all of Bennie's Warriors, thank you.
We created this memorial to celebrate the life... see moreFamily and friends who have been on this journey with us, the Montoya family would like to thank you for your love and continued support.
This journey would not have been bearable without all of you having our backs.
To all of Bennie's Warriors, thank you.
We created this memorial to celebrate the life of Benilde "Bennie". Collecting your stories and memories here will offer us great comfort. As we plan a celebration of life, we will share details here. Thank you for contributing to this lasting memorial.
OBITUARY
Anyone who knew my wife, Benilde "Bennie", knows that she had a big heart. She loved everyone that became friends with her. These friends became family. She loved her family, especially her kids Richie and Brandy and her God Kids Tomas III "Fatty", Ashley, Joliceana and Erica. Her smile and laugh could light up a room. She was a very caring person who looked for the good in people.
My wife was always up for an adventure. From... see more
Anyone who knew my wife, Benilde "Bennie", knows that she had a big heart. She loved everyone that became friends with her. These friends became family. She loved her family, especially her kids Richie and Brandy and her God Kids Tomas III "Fatty", Ashley, Joliceana and Erica. Her smile and laugh could light up a room. She was a very caring person who looked for the good in people.
My wife was always up for an adventure. From going on bike rides, hikes, walks, or on a road trip. She made the best out of everything we did together
Her favorite thing to do when she was at home was watch the travel Channel. She loved to watch Ghost Adventures, Destination Fear, Ghost Nation, and Dead Files.
There was never a dull moment with my wife. She loved to have fun
My sista I can't believe your gone it hurts to write this cuz I miss you so much I miss you always picking on me or inviting me to come over to eat I miss having you around and the joy and love you have brought to the family you'll always be remembered... moreMy sista I can't believe your gone it hurts to write this cuz I miss you so much I miss you always picking on me or inviting me to come over to eat I miss having you around and the joy and love you have brought to the family you'll always be remembered and never forgotten I know your watching over us all and your always in my heart I love you my sista and I think of you every day.rest in peace less
I miss you. I miss us picking on and teasing each other. You were a beautiful light in this world and we are all better for having known you. Thank you for being in my life.
Bennie.... what an absolutely beautiful and genuine soul. I had the opportunity to take care of Bennie while she was in the hospital a few months ago. I vividly remember getting to work bright and early and finding the nurse who took care of her... moreBennie.... what an absolutely beautiful and genuine soul. I had the opportunity to take care of Bennie while she was in the hospital a few months ago. I vividly remember getting to work bright and early and finding the nurse who took care of her overnight to get report. As he began his report- no exaggeration - the first words out of his mouth were, “this lady is just incredible.” I looked at him, halfway expecting this to be sarcasm, and he had this look of sheer adoration in his eyes. He continues updating me on Bennie’s hospitalization, plan of care, lab results, etc., and we walk into Bennie’s room at the end of the hallway, and sure enough, Bennie is sitting at the edge of the bed and greets us with an enormous smile on her face- a smile that I will never in a million years forget. To be honest, the most common response to 2 loud nurses walking into a hospital room at 7AM is, “Can I please get some more sleep?” while throwing the covers over their head (and I can’t say I blame them!). Not Bennie... Bennie radiated positivity, happiness and love. She was an incredibly strong woman, who didn’t allow her health and her circumstances to make her bitter, but rather, it made her stronger. It made her more appreciative. It made her love harder and embrace the world in full force. It made her spread joy and that contagious smile and laugh of hers.
Over the next few days, I was fortunate enough to have Bennie as a patient. Over those 3 days, her strength and determination could not have been more evident. Jerrie, her beautiful wife, was at the bedside every second she was able to. Jerrie was encouraging her, cracking jokes, helping her, loving on her. I remember just looking at Jerrie and Bennie interact and thinking - ‘dang, that’s real love. If the world had more Bennie’s and more Jerrie’s and more couples like them, the world would be a better place.’ Their love was a genuine, pure, wholehearted kind of love - one you see in movies but you don’t truly believe they exist in real life. I’m here to tell you they do - because I witnessed it between these two. It was evident in their actions, in their communication, in the way they looked at each other that they were best friends...soulmates. Jerrie was a rock for Bennie, and Bennie would be the first to admit it.
Having the chance to spend a few days with Bennie is time I will forever cherish. In the couple of days I spent with her, I learned more about life, positive attitude, and choosing happiness regardless of circumstances than I ever thought I could learn in a lifetime.
All of Bennie’s friends and family, especially Jerrie, are in my thoughts and prayers. Rest In Peace, sweet angel. Your mark on this world will never fade less
My Beautiful Wife,
We spent 21 years together making memories.
I enjoyed every minute I was with.
You tought me so much on this journey and throughout the 21 years we shared.
You have the greatest smile and laugh. You could always make me laugh... moreMy Beautiful Wife,
We spent 21 years together making memories.
I enjoyed every minute I was with.
You tought me so much on this journey and throughout the 21 years we shared.
You have the greatest smile and laugh. You could always make me laugh .
Thank you all the different things you showed me with our time together.
I love and miss you.
You will always be in my heart. less
I still can't believe that you are gone. I know that you are in a much better place in heaven with our king. But it breaks my heart to see my sissy Jerrie hurting. When you came into our family I got another sister. You don't know how much you meant to... moreI still can't believe that you are gone. I know that you are in a much better place in heaven with our king. But it breaks my heart to see my sissy Jerrie hurting. When you came into our family I got another sister. You don't know how much you meant to me. When I see an owl or hear a ghost story I will always think of my Bennie. We now have an angel in heaven looking down on us. Love you! less
My sweet sister, Benilde. You and Sister Jerrie became a huge part of my life at a time when I was really struggling. You took me in to your home, and loved me and my kids just like family. I will be forever grateful to you both for the live and support... moreMy sweet sister, Benilde. You and Sister Jerrie became a huge part of my life at a time when I was really struggling. You took me in to your home, and loved me and my kids just like family. I will be forever grateful to you both for the live and support you showed me then, and still now. I’ll never forget dancing to Beyoncé in the kitchen, or going to the park to spend an afternoon. The long talks we had, and all the laughs!! Rest in Heaven, Sister. I love you. less
I had the privilege of meeting Bennie at Jerrie's 20th work anniversary celebration. I remember her personality filling the room as she beamed with pride for her wife who was celebrating a major milestone. The stories Jerrie would share with me from... moreI had the privilege of meeting Bennie at Jerrie's 20th work anniversary celebration. I remember her personality filling the room as she beamed with pride for her wife who was celebrating a major milestone. The stories Jerrie would share with me from their adventures were full of love and humor. Many hugs to Jerrie and family, and I hope for smooth healing. less