BIOGRAPHY
“There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens, a time to be born (Ecc 3:1&2)”.
Prince Peter Bah Tabi was born into the royal house of the Zang Tabi Fondom on the 7th of August 1948. He was the first son, though the second child of his mother. He attended the... see moreBIOGRAPHY
“There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens, a time to be born (Ecc 3:1&2)”.
Prince Peter Bah Tabi was born into the royal house of the Zang Tabi Fondom on the 7th of August 1948. He was the first son, though the second child of his mother. He attended the Government (Primary) School Mamfe where he obtained his first school leaving certificate in 1962. The following year, he gained admission in to the Government Technical College Ombe, after passing the Competitive Common Entrance Examination. Here he enrolled in the Sheet Metal Department. He graduated from the college 5 years later with London City and Guilds Gr 2 Certificate. With no technical high school handy for him to further his education formally, he resorted to taking correspondence courses for the City and Guilds Certificate, Advanced Level. He passed this two years after. Meanwhile he got himself employed to work in the technical section of the then Department of Urban Development, Kumba.
He shortly afterwards switched over to next door Public Works Department. Somehow, he settled down to start building his career there, but things were to change as the years went by. It was during this period that he met the Love of his life, in the person of Dorothy. He shyly proposed to her, and they soon got married; their wedding was solemnised and blessed in Presbyterian Church, Kumba-Mbeng. Following this event quick and fast was his recruitment, after exacting selection tests, to undergo training to work in the new born oil refinery, SONARA. For this he, and his other colleagues, underwent 3 years of theoretical and practical courses in Cameroun and Marseilles) France. He qualified as a unit operator on their return to Cameroon he became as it were one of the pioneer skilled employees at the refinery. He worked diligently braving all odds from February 1978 to June 2005 when, for health reasons he asked for and went on voluntary retirement.
He loved singing. In fact, from his primary school days back in Mamfe, the seed of making melody had already geminated in him. He stood out during singing lessons in the school; he sang in the English choirs of the Presbyterian Church in Mamfe; he was heard in Ombe through Kumba to Victoria now Limbe. He was devoted to church activities and groups; from CYF to CMF memberships; he was a YP teacher already in Kumba. Wherever he passed it was not uncommon to hear children greeting and chanting his name “MR Peter, Mr Peter!!. He has tutored a host of catechumen for baptism and confirmation. The late Prince Peter Bah was an elder in the PPC for decades and congregational vice/chairman of PC Bota for a number of years. He lived a simple, unassuming defaced life. He spent a lot of his time in the church premises doing one assignment or the other. Even some of his children declared laconically that he lived in the church. He loved his family dearly and played with all his children the way good friends do. He recently renewed his marital vows in the PCC Bota.
Two years ago, he stepped down from Leadership church activities. About a year ago, he took seriously ill and spent some anxious days in the hospital. When he felt a little better yet still in bed, he expressed his thanks to everyone for their prayers. Sometime after he was discharged and assessing his much improved health, he resumed catechumen classes with some aspirants who turned out to be the last batch of students he prepared for baptism. Apparently, these activities did not weigh him down but rather gave him so much joy and enjoyment.
On the 11th of May 2020 however, he complained that he had a headache for some days and had a taken medications to no avail but reported feeling much better on this day. He said he was fine, his household was safe and healthy and he sounded optimistic.
“A time to die Ecc 3:2” On the 12th of May his situation suddenly deteriorated and was rushed to the hospital where he gave up the ghost. He is survived by his loving wife, five children (Akwi, Anwi, Nimba, Ngohnyam and Ndah), brothers and sisters and a host of friends. May he rest in Perfect Peace.
My sincere condolences to you and the family. I never personally met Papa but he was always present in our convos and in so many things you would do because he was such a role model to you.
Elvis, may Papa rest in eternal peace. He sure lived a good live... moreMy sincere condolences to you and the family. I never personally met Papa but he was always present in our convos and in so many things you would do because he was such a role model to you.
Elvis, may Papa rest in eternal peace. He sure lived a good live and may his legacy live on. less
I never met you, but I heard a lot about you and know the kind of that you were when I look at your beautiful children. I know you were the light that gave Lydia her unique beautiful smile. Thank you for giving us your beautiful treasures, children with... moreI never met you, but I heard a lot about you and know the kind of that you were when I look at your beautiful children. I know you were the light that gave Lydia her unique beautiful smile. Thank you for giving us your beautiful treasures, children with kind hearts and big dreams. Thank you for lighting 4 beautiful candles before leaving the world. Adieu Papa Tabi.
Dear Daddy, it is with a split heart that I heard about the your passing away into eternity. It was the saddest news to me. On that fateful, I stepped out to work as usual but after an hour I returned home and walked straight into my room, and locked... moreDear Daddy, it is with a split heart that I heard about the your passing away into eternity. It was the saddest news to me. On that fateful, I stepped out to work as usual but after an hour I returned home and walked straight into my room, and locked myself. The children were surprised that I was backed so soon from work. I had a primonition something awful was to happen but I kept pushing away from my mind the feeling of death. I pushed it to the best of my abilities but God said NO. Then the news came from Akwi at about 1pm "Ni Emma, have you heard what happened to Daddy. He has just died." I was blown out. I lost every sense of living. I went deaf and dumb.
Dear Daddy, I will remember you for bringing us up the way you did, and especially me. You taught me some of the values in life: honesty, humility, tolerance, kindness, patience, forgiveness, selflessness, gratitude, fidelity, and how to love and pray to God. You taught me how to accept that I am wrong even if I knew that I am right. This was the most difficult, but I tried in my own little way. I copied and practised some of these values to extremes. I would leave my own things in the name selflessness to attend to other people's issues. But I don't regret these. You taught me to read good and quality books. Two of these impacted me greatly: " How to Win Friends and Influence People" and "The Power of Positive Thinking". We thank God for your life and we pray that your soul finds perfect peace in the Lord Almighty that you served all through your life. (Emmanuel TITA TABI, your first son). less
Well.... It's like 8 or maybe 10 years ago, I met Papa. UB. Lydia n myself were course mates then found out we're from same village so the bond quickly became stronger. Ofcourse she took me to her home a couple of times. One time I spent a full weekend... moreWell.... It's like 8 or maybe 10 years ago, I met Papa. UB. Lydia n myself were course mates then found out we're from same village so the bond quickly became stronger. Ofcourse she took me to her home a couple of times. One time I spent a full weekend with them then I I briefly came to know this tender soul. Papa. He reminded me of my Dad. Soft spoken and attention to details, then the smile each time he spoke. It was brief but I carried the memory of him althrough these years. Fly high Papa and watch over your family back here. I pray the good Lord gives you the strength Rapcity (Lydia) as well as your entire family. I know what it is. Each time u cry,I bet u will feel Papa's comforting invisible hands on u then you'll smile again.
Papa the most important thing that comes to mind when thinking about you are the “ Papa Bear Hugs you give me”😭😭😭 calling me “Anwi nde” Your genuine love for me, care, kindness and generosity 😭😭😭. All I have is good memories,... morePapa the most important thing that comes to mind when thinking about you are the “ Papa Bear Hugs you give me”😭😭😭 calling me “Anwi nde” Your genuine love for me, care, kindness and generosity 😭😭😭. All I have is good memories, whether of us eating as a family, I remember all the things you usually bring home for us to eat. Going to your meetings with Lydia and Mama. Going to church, and after church, just watching tv with you, or serving you. I couldn’t wait for when I would come back to Cameroon just to see you again 😭😭 You were a good PAPA Bear. I will forever miss those hugs I will never get, your unique papa Bear voice, and your loving presence ❤️❤️. ADieu Papa you will be greatly missed.
Papa the most important thing that comes to mind when thinking about you are the “ Papa Bear Hugs you give me”???????????? calling me “Anwi nde” Your genuine love for me, care, kindness and generosity ????????????. All I have is good memories,... morePapa the most important thing that comes to mind when thinking about you are the “ Papa Bear Hugs you give me”???????????? calling me “Anwi nde” Your genuine love for me, care, kindness and generosity ????????????. All I have is good memories, whether of us eating as a family, I remember all the things you usually bring home for us to eat. Going to your meetings with Lydia and Mama. Going to church, and after church, just watching tv with you, or serving you. I couldn’t wait for when I would come back to Cameroon just to see you again ???????? You were a good PAPA Bear. I will forever miss those hugs I will never get, your unique papa Bear voice, and your loving presence ❤️❤️. ADieu Papa you will be greatly missed.
The dad I run to she my dad gets me beating. He thought me the skill of patience and endurance he Gave me the principles of an old man. These made me older than my real age. Thanks for being there Papa. I love u
I remember when we met sometimes in December. I reminisce meeting a man who demonstrated strength, discipline and resilience. Though you looked sick and broken you radiated an aura of authority in love and wisdom. I wish I knew you more. But God needs... moreI remember when we met sometimes in December. I reminisce meeting a man who demonstrated strength, discipline and resilience. Though you looked sick and broken you radiated an aura of authority in love and wisdom. I wish I knew you more. But God needs you more. You legacy lives on papa. less
It came as a shock when I learnt you had departed. I knew you had health challenges, but a few days before you were gone, Nimba told me you were OK.
Dear Papa, my uncle I discovered through my friendship with my dear cousin Nimba way back in primary... moreIt came as a shock when I learnt you had departed. I knew you had health challenges, but a few days before you were gone, Nimba told me you were OK.
Dear Papa, my uncle I discovered through my friendship with my dear cousin Nimba way back in primary six. I can recall vividly how it happened. Some how Nimba was the new kid on the block from PNEU and some how, we just clicked and went along so well. Back home while I told my mum about my new friend in school and all he told me about himself, mummy told me " wait a minute. That's your cousin you are talking about. His father is my brother.(cousin) "And that's how we carried on and reunited long separated cousins.
Papa your soft spoken nature was second to non. So soft spoken that to me, you were not strict at all. And whenever Nimba complained of your strictness, I would laugh out my lungs. But you sure did have tough principles which I admit have reflected on them right to this day.
I remember how I used to join Nimba, Ngonyam and Lydia on a ride back home whenever you were chanced to come pick them up from school. How they will bug you with so many questions on the ride and how you will so patiently answer them all. How we will play in the sonara residence and readjust when you came back tired from work. My deepest fond memory of you is when you always commended me for my calm headedness and duty consciousness, and how you always encouraged me to keep it up.
The fond memories are so many, I could go on and on. I looked forward to traveling back one day so we could all sit and reminisce, but alas, the cold hands of death have snatched you away. God knows best and I believe deep in my heart that you have occupied your own mansion in your father's house.
Rest on my dear uncle. You will forever live in my heart.
With much love,your nephew,
Manga Azah. less
Papa you were the kindest and the best father-in-law any girl could ever ask for. A gentle giant, genuinely loving and God fearing. I'll always remember your soothing voice calling me " my daughter. " I was always felt at ease talking to you.... morePapa you were the kindest and the best father-in-law any girl could ever ask for. A gentle giant, genuinely loving and God fearing. I'll always remember your soothing voice calling me " my daughter. " I was always felt at ease talking to you. Papa I still can't believe you're gone. I wanted you to spend time with your grandchildren. God knows best, but the hurt is too real. Rest assured that we will take care of mama to the fullest extent. May your gentle soul rest in peace papa. less
My dear Brother, that baritone voice of yours has gone away. I will no longer hear it live “Oh death where is thy sting”. Since our very childhood, we have never avoided each other. You have been my close companion even up till now that we are... moreMy dear Brother, that baritone voice of yours has gone away. I will no longer hear it live “Oh death where is thy sting”. Since our very childhood, we have never avoided each other. You have been my close companion even up till now that we are parting so painfully. I remember when in those days I lay ill in hospital you would return from school, pick up your lunch and hurry to me so we could eat together, so that you can encourage me to eat. In our later days, you though me how to swim. I learn calligraphy from you, you thought me how to appreciate music and you nurtured my love for singing. We were very supportive of each other, we did much of our things together.
Now, it has pleased the Lord to call you home. We, my wife Judith, Ma Ziona, my children Tenga, Nibot, Tahyea, Agwo and Asaah-Bah, sisters and brothers wish you farewell till we meet again. less
Throughout my life, I adored you like no other son would ever adore their father. Daddy, you’ve been my pillar and I never really visualized a world without you in it. I am so heartbroken.
You reigned me in when I appeared to stray away from the path... moreThroughout my life, I adored you like no other son would ever adore their father. Daddy, you’ve been my pillar and I never really visualized a world without you in it. I am so heartbroken.
You reigned me in when I appeared to stray away from the path of righteousness Papa. Of all your kids, I was the dreamer, the risk taker and the joker. You helped me convert my dreams into concrete plans and guided me through every single major choice I made in life.
Papa, let me take you down memory lane when you used to wake us up at 5am for bible hour or turn off the TV at 9pm when our favourite TV program was on for bible lessons. As kids we would cry and mumble and grumble but ultimately your firm direction in bringing us all up made me the man I am today.
Ever the planner, you signaled to us last year that your time on earth may be near. You fell sick, very sick and I was out of my wits working day and night to provide all I could to make you stay with us a little longer – if only to see your beautiful grandchildren. You got well, so well that you would laugh and joke with me over video calls as we made plans for you to visit the USA. Imagine my shock then Papa that the cold hands of death suddenly snatched you away from this world. I only regret one thing; I never had the chance to hug you again just one more time.
Daddy, you know you and I shared a special bond, right? Amongst your children, I alone took your fair complexion hehehe 😉 while the others decided Mama’s complexion was for them.
Daddy, as hard as it may be, I will not be discouraged. I will keep on working hard to take care of Mama. Rest well my dear father. I love you so much.
I am not able to fully contain myself even as I pay homage to this fallen soldier – my own father Tabi Bah Peter. Not that I didn’t know this day would one day come – for as one living on this side of eternity, death is an appointment. In spite of... moreI am not able to fully contain myself even as I pay homage to this fallen soldier – my own father Tabi Bah Peter. Not that I didn’t know this day would one day come – for as one living on this side of eternity, death is an appointment. In spite of this, the pain is real – my darling father is no more. Though he wasn’t perfect (as is the case of every human being), I wouldn’t have asked for a better father. Eehh God! I thank you. As the first fruit from his loins, I received the toughest discipline yet as well as the greatest shower of love from Pa Tabi.
Gentle and soft-spoken with a touch of humour here and there, dad was the ultimate peacemaker and counsellor. When it comes to keeping meticulous records, he simply had no match. I remember many years ago, our home got burgled and our TV set got taken away by men of the underworld. A couple of weeks later, the group of guys who stole our belongings were caught by the police and all the stolen items in their possession were recovered and displayed at the police station. The items included items from several other homes in our neighborhood. The police (as cunning as they were) told Daddy the only way he could retrieve his TV was to provide the receipt for the original purchase of the TV set despite daddy’s name being engraved on the screen as was normal practice back in the days. When mama heard this, she let out a long laugh. She was quick to point out that a man (papa) who still had the receipt of his first pot he bought as a bachelor back in the 70s would definitely have the receipt of the TV he bought less than 5 years earlier. The police reluctantly gave daddy our TV back and we were one happy bunch of kids once more.
If at all a call to ministry is transferable, then I could say that I have picked up the mantle from my dad. He showed me the path from my birth and would say jokingly “Anwi, you do carry my pastoral call”. In him I saw a loving husband who dedicated his life to honouring, protecting and adoring his wife and kids. I subconsciously looked for his type everywhere but alas!! There could only be one “Elder Tabi”. Daddy rest easy. Left to me, you should not leave now, but since I know whom you serve, I rest my case. I’ll take it from here dad, God help me.
Papa, haaaiii!! I AM NOT WRITING THIS!!! I CAN'T BE!!! This can't be! Aaahh mon papa Chéri ! I can't be writing this!! 😭😭.
My baby boy! My Valentine. My first love. 😭😭😭My eyes tear up as I write. I can't even continue.
Cheeeiii!!!... morePapa, haaaiii!! I AM NOT WRITING THIS!!! I CAN'T BE!!! This can't be! Aaahh mon papa Chéri ! I can't be writing this!! 😭😭.
My baby boy! My Valentine. My first love. 😭😭😭My eyes tear up as I write. I can't even continue.
Cheeeiii!!! Hmmm! Wandas shall never finish!
Where do I start mon papa Chéri? How do I get the sound of you calling my name and the sound you made while breathing your last breath from my head? How do I even erase the image from my head? How do I "untype" the texts I sent saying Papa is dead. How?
You loved me. So much. So much love, I had a hard time falling in love. I recall my friends will say that this kind of love is only seen in the movies. I'll argue and say I see it on a daily basis in our home. This they confirmed when they spend time at our home.
I couldn't stay away from you. Like a magnet I'll always be back. Reasons why I took the first flight back home from Kigali last year when I learnt you were sick. Mom knew I couldn't stay away. I saw how your eyes brightened when you saw me. And how you got well immediately. I miss you papa. I miss you Papa.
As a child, when we heard the SONARA bus at the bus stop, all my friends and I will run to you. And hug you. My friends will even run to you before they run to their own dads. You were a very loving father to many. To everyone.
My heart is shattered. Into a million pieces. How does anyone get over this kind of pain?
You taught us LOVE and INTEGRITY! I Recall, one time, with my friends in school, I told them I could tell them exactly where my dad was at that point in time ( I had not seen him in weeks as I was in school). They argued. I called him. And behold he was where I said he'd be. In church. Your father's house.
How do I watch the premiere league again? Manchester United has not been up on their game lately. But me and you were still hopeful. GGMU. At least in the other leagues, Real Madrid and PSG were not totally letting us down. I so miss you baby boy!
When me and mom will disagree, you were the peacemaker. You'll get wine and chicken and make us eat together. And we laugh and make peace. Chaaiii. Na wah oo!!. My heart oo!!!.
I remember when I will have disagreements with mama, you will always say both our temperaments clashed. How you stayed clam and collective during those times beats my imagination. You will always call me later and say "Don't mind your mother". And call me your Valentine.
You showed us so much. You didn't only teach with your words, your actions were louder. Thank you papa Chéri for an amazing childhood. And a great adulthood. I wish it could last longer. I so wish. I could write on and on. The tears in my eyes won't let me see clearly. The emotions in my heart won't let me think straight. I miss you papa. I am grateful to have been there during your last moments.
The lyrics of Luther Vandross song Dance with my father again seem to make so much sense now. I recall I didn't love to listen to that song because you were well alive and I couldn't imagine you gone. Now I am living it. Cheeeiii. How do I write this long!
Adieu mon papa Chéri. My heart explodes with so much love for you.
I'll miss you. Sending warm hugs to Tabi Bah Peter Jr thru you. You will NEVER EVER EVER LEAVE MY HEART!
To you my daddy with all my love.
Lydia Indah less
My dear Husband,
Loving and caring for you is all I was living for. My heart is shattered beyond repair. Even after over 40 years of marriage, I don’t think I will ever be ready to let you go. The news of your death, just thirty minutes after I served... moreMy dear Husband,
Loving and caring for you is all I was living for. My heart is shattered beyond repair. Even after over 40 years of marriage, I don’t think I will ever be ready to let you go. The news of your death, just thirty minutes after I served you lunch hit me lit a ton of bricks. It suddenly dawned on me that I will be lying on our bed alone for the rest of my life. My lover, my father, my boh boh. In the market, I called you my black belt holder, at church I called you my prayer partner and choir master. At home, you were indisputably the master and Lord of my heart. As I reflect on how much you showed me selfless love and tolerance, I sigh and beat my breast in pain. Ah! What manner of love is this?
You picked me up from behind my mother’s kitchen, polished me up by sending me to school and above all, you made me a mother of 5 beautiful and handsome children. Not even in my wildest dream would I have seen myself stepping onto an aircraft to travel across the ocean to exotic lands but you my dear made all that possible. Aaaah!! The Rock, the gentle Lion, the peacemaker!!! Aaaah!! What else can I say my darling husband? Sleep well Ni Peter. Sleep well in the bosom of your father in heaven whom you served relentlessly till your last days. I will miss you so much.
Your wife, Dorothy. less
“Pierrot” (as some of us called you), so your own day finally came. That day which we all know is inevitable in everybody’s life, but which is dreaded. Dreaded because with it comes SEPARATION. Separation from loved ones, friends, colleagues,... more“Pierrot” (as some of us called you), so your own day finally came. That day which we all know is inevitable in everybody’s life, but which is dreaded. Dreaded because with it comes SEPARATION. Separation from loved ones, friends, colleagues, neighbours and even property.
My memory if you is centered around three aspects:
First, we found ourselves among the few anglophones who happened to have worked in SONARA in the early years of the company. Secondly, we worshipped and served God in the same congregation. And thirdly, we made up the trio in the Bethel Choir who were born in the month of August – Andrew Essien, Peter Tabi & Mary Diabe with a difference of two years separating each of us from the other.
The above three aspects brought our families to a close relationship. This was climaxed during our ten years of service to the Lord where I served as chairman of the congregation and you as my Vice. We worked hand-in-glove to meet up with the expected goals of the congregation. Our spiritual lives kept growing and we ran family prayer cells involving all our children.
Your desire to raise people up spiritually led you to you single handedly managing doctrine classes for new converts. This you did tirelessly over the years and never gave up even with your failing health situation.
As birth month partners, we the August trio had a lot of socializing with our families and as choristers, we did what it took to develop the Bethel Choir.
Well, well, well, the trio has been reduced to one now. With Andrew and you gone, what else can I say? All I am left with now is the feeling of nostalgia.
As I wait for my own day, I say brother, ‘Adieu’.
Mary Diabe less
Papa, the news of your demise was a huge shock to many of us. The shock was enormous owing to the fact you that you were strong and in your usual jovial mood when i visited you and Mama in November.
I remember the days i had to have a sleep over in the... morePapa, the news of your demise was a huge shock to many of us. The shock was enormous owing to the fact you that you were strong and in your usual jovial mood when i visited you and Mama in November.
I remember the days i had to have a sleep over in the house because Lydia and i were preparing for the GCE, thus we decided to burn the midnight candle together.
You encouraged us to study hard; we yielded to your advice and produced great results.
I am comforted by the fact that you are now with the Lord whom you served relentlessly during your journey on earth.
My heartfelt condolences go to Mama, Anwi, Nimba, Ngohnyam, Indah and the rest of the family
It is well.
It's very sad hearing that you are no more our dear cousin, Peter. We loved you dearly but God loves you most. May your gentle soul rest in the perfect peace of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ."
Papa Peter Bah Tabi was my biggest ever mentor . The example I tried to follow but was too big for me to be able to. To say Exemplary will be the biggest ever understatement. Even as a child it was clear to me he is the one to follow amongst all I saw... morePapa Peter Bah Tabi was my biggest ever mentor . The example I tried to follow but was too big for me to be able to. To say Exemplary will be the biggest ever understatement. Even as a child it was clear to me he is the one to follow amongst all I saw before me:
- A father, provider and protector to a stretch of families
- He redefined and gave true meaning to simplicity, honesty and integrity.
- He was dedicated to the good cause beyond imagination.
Papa, I will miss
- I will miss your library of books
-I will miss your musical collection
- I will miss your faultless linguistic expressions
- I will miss your out of the blue Scrabble words,
- I will miss your perfect hand writing
- I will miss your guidance and wisdom
- I will miss your kindness and generosity and understanding
- I will miss your everything
I am proud to tell the world that you are my father in the true meaning of the word.
One of my memories of my father-in-law was when I spoke to him for the first time over the phone; I was very stressed but his calming and fatherly voice changed everything... "My daughter" how he used to call me. Daddy quickly put me at ease. My... moreOne of my memories of my father-in-law was when I spoke to him for the first time over the phone; I was very stressed but his calming and fatherly voice changed everything... "My daughter" how he used to call me. Daddy quickly put me at ease. My wonderful father-in-law went to Jesus. His faith and dedication to God is an inspiration for all of us. May his soul rest in peace.
You will be missed daddy.
"In the path of righteousness is life, and in its pathway there is no death"Proverbs 12:28
Honesty, integrity and a strong fear of God were the hallmarks that defined your life Papa. The very essence of my life, and those of my siblings, is guided by the pathway you created throughout your time on earth. “Elder Tabi” (as you were known by... moreHonesty, integrity and a strong fear of God were the hallmarks that defined your life Papa. The very essence of my life, and those of my siblings, is guided by the pathway you created throughout your time on earth. “Elder Tabi” (as you were known by everyone) you served God and the church for as long as anyone could ever remember. In fact, as a kid, I used to think “Elder” was your first name. Imagine. Having had such a loving dad for my entire life, carrying on your legacy is now my mission on earth. My sons, Joshua & Jordan (whom you didn’t get to meet) will know of all the ways you guided me through to being the man I am today.
As a kid, I remember how strict you were and how loving you were at the same time. “ Spare the rod and spoil the child” right? You were so methodological in your approach to everything, even in your punishments. Six strokes meant six strokes (not finishing the cane on men once you got to the11th stroke :-) ). Just the sight of your car coming down the hill at the end of your work day was enough to kick-start the “Usain Bolt” in us all, running home like our lives depended on it. Well guess what daddy, today, at the end of my work day, all I think about is “running” home to my family, family you taught me was the most important thing on earth after God.
I remember how together with mama, you made us value education to the point were being grounded and therefore not being allowed to go to school were legitimate punishments as kids. Well daddy Sir, whatever your plan was, it worked miraculously.
When I left home to go study in the UK, you comforted me and told me everything was going to be alright. I left home at a relatively young age, venturing into a land thousands of miles away from the nearest member of my family. When I spent nights wanting to come back home, guess who told me to hang in there as God’s time was the best? Yep, you did.
When I got married a few years back, your kind and loving presence made life so easy for my wife she couldn’t wait to meet you in person. You set the bar really high daddy – over 40 years loving and being there for your wife. Throughout my life, I have sought to emulate you, I have sought to walk in the path you cleared for me. I pray my kids look up to me the way I looked up to you for all the guidance a son could ever ask for.
My heart is torn daddy. I wouldn’t hear your soothing voice again, your voice of reason and unbelievable calm. I wouldn’t hear you say “ don’t mind your mother” any more or “ Hello my son” (your trademark greeting for every call I made). I wouldn’t hear you tell me sweet stories of your favourite football team Manchester United (still trying to figure out how I became an Arsenal fan instead). My wings are tied and I simply can’t believe you are gone. Your last words to me were blessings of long life. I therefore promise to untie my wings and soar to the heights expected of me. As your first son, I shall keep the flag of your legacy flying.