We created a GatheringUs memorial to celebrate the life of Patrick William Russell. Collecting your stories and memories here will offer us great comfort. As we plan virtual and in person gatherings, we will share details here. Thank you for contributing to this lasting memorial.
Patrick was so well read. we could probably start a book club just with the books he shared with others. Even as a young man of 18, he was not only familiar with Shakespeare plays, but many of the sonnets too. From a letter from 28 years ago, I realized... morePatrick was so well read. we could probably start a book club just with the books he shared with others. Even as a young man of 18, he was not only familiar with Shakespeare plays, but many of the sonnets too. From a letter from 28 years ago, I realized (very late!) that he was quoting from sonnet 29:
Sonnet 29: When In Disgrace With Fortune and Men’s Eyes
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When in disgrace with fortune and men’s eyes
I all alone beweep my outcast state,
And trouble deaf heaven with my bootless cries,
And look upon myself, and curse my fate,
Wishing me like to one more rich in hope,
Featured like him, like him with friends possessed,
Desiring this man’s art, and that man’s scope,
With what I most enjoy contented least;
Yet in these thoughts my self almost despising,
Haply I think on thee, and then my state,
Like to the lark at break of day arising
From sullen earth, sings hymns at heaven’s gate;
For thy sweet love remembered such wealth brings
That then I scorn to change my state with kings.
Missing Patrick at times like this... Lately I’ve reminisced of our awesome conversations, hangouts and adventures... We made some awesome life memories and had great times - he was an altruistic standup guy and will always be remembered for his smile!
I'm so sad to hear this. I had not seen Patrick for many years, but he was and always will be my childhood friend. We met in elementary school and would be friend through to highschool. I remember him and his way with words fondly, as we would spend... moreI'm so sad to hear this. I had not seen Patrick for many years, but he was and always will be my childhood friend. We met in elementary school and would be friend through to highschool. I remember him and his way with words fondly, as we would spend afterschools drinking slurpees, playing GI Joe and roleplaying game (D&D was the favorite), and gallivanting around the neighbourhood in our way. I remember Patrick, disappointed at having lost a hand of poker to my mom, famously calling her a beluga whale, which was even more fun that the game. And I remember when I was about 14 and somehow had tickets to my first rock concert but the parents of the girl I had asked would not let her go, Patrick stepped in. And my parents were very glad, as they knew Patrick was streetwise at that age, and I was not. I still remember him exclaiming "Choice" (the word for "awesome" at the time) on seeing some pyrotechnics at the concert. I lost touch with Patrick later, but I remember the last time we talked we were in our early 20s, he was working at Tony Roma's I think, and he asked what courses I was taking at university. On hearing I was taking English lit and philosophy, he said, "oh, so you're taking all the cream puff courses?" Lol. In the picture below we are in Grade 7 or so I think. He was Ferris Bueller to this Cameron, and I will miss him and always remember him. I'm glad to see this celebration here, and my heart and condolences go out to his friends and family. less
Where to start.. Patrick was amazing, so many days and nights spent together. Talking , laughing, dancing together. He always knew when I needed him. At times before I even knew it. He would call me and just say I'm coming over babe. He saw me at my... moreWhere to start.. Patrick was amazing, so many days and nights spent together. Talking , laughing, dancing together. He always knew when I needed him. At times before I even knew it. He would call me and just say I'm coming over babe. He saw me at my worst and saw me at my best. He loved me unconditionally even when I didn't love myself. He was the one constant in my life. Just something as simple as one of his huge hugs and him listening to what I had to say or what I was feeling made my world so different. He loved me and saw me for me. That is something that is so hard to come by. We had a pact.. if we were both single by the time I hit 43 and him 45 we would get married.. we figured why not get married to your best friend if you were going to get married right!!
I will be forever grateful to you Pat. I am truly thankful each and every day that Dave introduced us a million years ago. I am so thankful for having you.
Thank you for loving me always - Till I can be in your arms again
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Brothers! Whether born with them or made through friendships! Its important to have and keep them in your life, and thoughts because you never know when they will be gone nor when you might need them in your life!
I have so many stories and... moreBrothers! Whether born with them or made through friendships! Its important to have and keep them in your life, and thoughts because you never know when they will be gone nor when you might need them in your life!
I have so many stories and memories of our brother Patty stretching over about 20 years. From our days at Roma, all the way to living in with him in Taiwan, wear he would become my Best Man at my wedding. I will post many of these stories in the days to come, but others might be best only told directly to friends and family either over beers in person or over social media! Rest In Peace my Brother Patrick!
Your brother made and found in our adventures
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Years ago when we were working at Roma's, I was reading books by Charles de Lint (Canadian author), because my sister had a bunch of them. In the book, The Onion Girl, there are Spirit people whose presence is so large, you can feel them before you see... moreYears ago when we were working at Roma's, I was reading books by Charles de Lint (Canadian author), because my sister had a bunch of them. In the book, The Onion Girl, there are Spirit people whose presence is so large, you can feel them before you see them. There is one character named Paddyjack, who everyone loves. I told Patrick the character made me think of him (in an affectionate way). I used to call him Pat, Pat, Paddyjack. Not really sure why, but that stuck for a while. Patrick loved books, so he wanted to read it. I thought we would bond over the character because he was very sweet, but Patrick came back pissed and ripped into me for associating him with a 'dim-witted tree sprite' 😂 maybe that's why I kept calling him Pat, Pat, Paddyjack...to piss him off?? I have to get a copy of the book and read it again. less
Patrick and Darryl were the first 2 guys to welcome me into the roma's family back in 01 Patrick was a a great friend and confidante for those first few years of my new life in vancouver. Many nights, many days, and many shifts. Over the years and... morePatrick and Darryl were the first 2 guys to welcome me into the roma's family back in 01 Patrick was a a great friend and confidante for those first few years of my new life in vancouver. Many nights, many days, and many shifts. Over the years and several jobs Patrick and I would have a few staple meet ups at whichever bar he was tending at the time, swap current stories and reminisce about the old ones. This man was a true friend when needed and though we didn't spend much time around each other in the recent "several" years I always asked about him and his life anytime i was around a common acquaintance. I was lucky enough to have him contact me in Jan of this year and got to go sit-down at the bar for our final catchup. You will be missed my friend and thank you for the ear. less
A moment with Patrick that was so funny it brought tears to both of us. Patrick was about 10 and we were on a road trip through the Rockies to Banff, Calgary and on the way home by way of the Frank slide...spending a night in Nelson. After dinner we... moreA moment with Patrick that was so funny it brought tears to both of us. Patrick was about 10 and we were on a road trip through the Rockies to Banff, Calgary and on the way home by way of the Frank slide...spending a night in Nelson. After dinner we decided to go to place where you could drive a golf ball into a net which would then be translated onto a screen which showed an actual golf hole. Having golfed almost daily as a teenager, i was pretty confident taking my turn. To my great surprise I missed the ball..an uncomfortable moment but Patrick remained stoic. Whiff!! i missed the second time! Now Patrick was having a hard time suppressing a giggle. I had Patrick's full attention as I tried again. He knew what was coming and couldnt wait to see! After the 3rd miss Patrick was on the floor, tears streaming down his face. I looked at him, got over my irritation of missing 3 times and the 2 of us laughed together, continually, for the rest of the trip home. I have always blamed the artifcial lighting for my misses but thinking back, the wine I had for dinner may have had something to do with it. I dont think we talked about this over the years as I had forgotten about it until the last few days. If Patrick could read this post i know it would bring a smile to his face.
Doug Russell
A proud dad and long retired golfer. less
Here's another funny story about Patrick as a wee young lad.
We were visiting extended family and Patrick was about 7 or 8. As we were all talking in the living room (about 15 people?), Patrick halted all the conversations to tell a joke. Once he had... moreHere's another funny story about Patrick as a wee young lad.
We were visiting extended family and Patrick was about 7 or 8. As we were all talking in the living room (about 15 people?), Patrick halted all the conversations to tell a joke. Once he had full command of the room, he commenced:
"What did Spock find in the toilet of the Enterprise bathroom?"
"I don't know. What?"
"The Captain's Log"
The room was stunned at a 7 year old telling a poop joke to the full room and especially to the quite conservative grandparents in the room. Cam and I were in the corner laughing hysterically. My mom was mortified. Grandpa leaned over to my mom and said "Ah Kay, kids." less
My mom just reminded me of this GREAT story about Patrick when he was 6 years old. This was 1982....My uncle Bill was visiting and he was babysitting Patrick. He sent 6-year-old Patrick to the store (very common back then) to buy him a 25 cent chocolate... moreMy mom just reminded me of this GREAT story about Patrick when he was 6 years old. This was 1982....My uncle Bill was visiting and he was babysitting Patrick. He sent 6-year-old Patrick to the store (very common back then) to buy him a 25 cent chocolate bar and told Patrick he could keep the coins that were change. This is well before the loonie was around. He had given Patrick a $5 bill....When Patrick paid for the chocolate bar, he asked for the $4.75 in change to be in quarters so that he could keep it all. Uncle Bill had no choice but to let him keep it. Not bad for a six year old! less