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This site is devoted to sharing the stories of our beloved sibling, son, husband, and friend, Raymond Fisher, who passed away unexpectedly on December 12, 2020. We cherish your memories and stories of Ray and invite you to leave them here and/or upload a video if you so desire.
Dear Juan Carlos,
dear family of Ray Fisher,
I am shocked and saddened to hear the terrible news. I used to be the head of the finance department at Linklaters in Germany (now retired). While Ray was based in Frankfurt and became a member of my... moreDear Juan Carlos,
dear family of Ray Fisher,
I am shocked and saddened to hear the terrible news. I used to be the head of the finance department at Linklaters in Germany (now retired). While Ray was based in Frankfurt and became a member of my department, I quickly realized what a brilliant mind he had and what a generous and loving person he was! We did numerous transactions together and he became a very good friend of mine. Several times I had him over at our house where we tasted good red wines, and also my wife as well as our kids enjoyed his company. I used to refer to him as our „ray of light“. We still remained to be in contact when he left Frankfurt for New York and afterwards, when he moved to Ashurst in London. I was also honored that he asked me to write a letter of reference for him when he applied for admission at Harvard Kennedy School.
Unfortunately, my English is no longer good enough to adequately describe how sad my wife and I are that he is no longer around. All I can say is that I was privileged that I could call him a good and dear friend. Please accept my deepest condolences for your tragic loss. I cannot start to imagine what this must mean for you, Juan Carlos, and Ray’s parents and siblings! I will always keep his memory in my heart!
With kind regards,
Berthold less
Ray and I worked together on the PMI policy team at the FRBNY. While we didn't often work directly on projects together, I really appreciated having him as a teammate and a mentor. He was always generous with his time and really listened when discussing... moreRay and I worked together on the PMI policy team at the FRBNY. While we didn't often work directly on projects together, I really appreciated having him as a teammate and a mentor. He was always generous with his time and really listened when discussing an issue or question. As others have said, he was also happy to talk about new restaurants or the best way to make pastry or anything else. I'll really miss him as a teammate, and send my deepest condolences to his family. He is gone way too soon, but I'm happy to have had the opportunity to know him. What a loss. less
“And where is the place of understanding?
Thus it is hidden from the eyes of all living.” (Job 28: 20-21)
We battle the silence of absence. Like Jacob, wrestling the angel, we end up limping. Jacob was renamed Israel, etymologized as... more“And where is the place of understanding?
Thus it is hidden from the eyes of all living.” (Job 28: 20-21)
We battle the silence of absence. Like Jacob, wrestling the angel, we end up limping. Jacob was renamed Israel, etymologized as "contends-with-G/d.” Man struggles to understand, to penetrate the mystery, to slice the veil.
Raymond Fisher had a gentle soul, the humility and generosity that without preaching reminded me of a faith well-lived without “a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.” Friends for decades, I never told him of my secret admiration for his righteousness. Virtue, so rare needs to be celebrated. Familiar with Scripture, he was not one to preach, he lived the commandments to be meek, to love the poor, to be hospitable.
I met Ray through our friend and classmate Ed Davis. We were an inseparable trio blessed by Tom Philips (Ed’s husband) and Juan Carlos. Soon after meeting, Ray was already part of the Miami scene. He saw firsthand the transformation of South Beach. Ray met all the artists, developers; he lived the political controversies and the bomb scares. Ray spoke to everyone and, obviously, somehow, without gaining an ounce was moved between burgeoning food scene and traditional Cuban cuisine. I would travel to New York and stay with him and his cat Sophia. He became part of my family. He shared with my father the Pennsylvania connection. My father had lived and gone to school in Pennsylvania. His uncle had married a Quaker.
It was in Miami that he met Juan Carlos, another very important reason to travel. The arrival of Juan Carlos was, at least for me, an explosion of fun. My mother would often travel to Sloan Kettering for cancer treatments. Ray and Juan Carlos would meet with her, my aunt, always terrified of New York City driving and anything outside the Upper East Side. Those things one never forgets. Ray left everything on his desk and took the first flight to Miami when my mother passed. Both of them came to Miami for my father’s funeral.
It was shortly thereafter that I moved to New York and we kept a fairly regular brunch schedule: Ray and Juan Carlos with Ed and Tom. They were my family living alone in New York. I keep a beautiful memory of going to a Maria Joao Pires all-Chopin recital at City Center. That afternoon was as if a muse touched the reclusive pianist with magic inspiration. I remember crying sitting next to Ray and Juan Carlos. I also remember -- talking about crying -- calling Ray from the Sony Building in tears after a screening of Before Night Falls. I had met Reinaldo Arenas and had organized a lecture for him in Cambridge. Ray understood.
I was awake watching the news the morning of 9/11. I remember calling him to ask him to skip work when the first plane hit the World Trade Center. He said he would walk to the office. I let it go. With the second impact I called back, cursing in Spanish: “tienes que irte, vete. ¡Ni se te ocurra ir al trabajo!” (“You have to leave. Go! Don’t even think about going to work”) Looking out the window he saw ashes and papers flying around. He offered coming to pick me up as the bridges were closing. I begged him to leave, I would find a way out.
How Ray handled Juan Carlos and me together without medications is a testament to inner strength. The two of us must have been Latin American magic realism without García Márquez. I keep this mind along with the long hours I spent meditating by the brook, in the farm. It was my little corner for prayer and praising the Lord.
We shared a love for Bach. Ray had performed the St Matthew Passion (Matthäus-Passion). I had a chance to visit Thomaskirche in Leipzig where it was first performed. I had Ray on my mind. There is a moving aria I will forever associate with him:
Erbarme dich, mein Gott,
Um meiner Zähren willen!
Schaue hier, Herz und Auge
Weint vor dir bitterlich.
Erbarme dich, mein Gott.
Have mercy, my God,
For the sake of my tears!
See here, before you
Heart and eyes weep bitterly.
Have mercy, my God.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPAiH9XhTHc
There are moments that live in memory, moments where everything makes sense, where nothing can go wrong, when life sparkles and is worth living. Ray and Juan Carlos’ wedding is one of those moments in my life. I keep the pictures with me. “The people I'm most fond of in the world were with me. I could hear them …around me; I felt their presence, the warmth of their hands. [that afternoon I experienced] perfection.” (Bergman, Cries and Whispers) Those moments of “perfection” when one is given a blink of the beauty of the mystery revealed make the darkness of pain bearable. less
I worked with Ray at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York and I always really enjoyed working with Ray and being around him. He was extremely bright, well spoken, kind, pleasant, intellectually curious, friendly - he just really seemed like an amazing... moreI worked with Ray at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York and I always really enjoyed working with Ray and being around him. He was extremely bright, well spoken, kind, pleasant, intellectually curious, friendly - he just really seemed like an amazing person.
When I saw the news of his passing I was not only shocked but also immensely sad. He was such a wonderful, positive person, the kind of person this world needs and that others need to be around. Honestly, there have been a lot of people that have passed this year, some more famous than others, but none touched my heart the way that this news hit me... It makes me so sad thinking that I will never speak to him again, and I truly feel so sorry for all of the family and friends that likewise will miss him. I had actually spoken with him just about a month prior and I told him how my mother-in-law might be moving out to Lancaster and how I would love to bring my family by his place at some point and we could all have dinner together or something. I was genuinely very excited about the idea of such a visit and was looking forward to it...
Please know that I thought the world of him - what a wonderful human being - someone we could all look up to and look forward to seeing. I don't have enough room here to properly highlight his worth to this world, but knowing Ray meant knowing that he was loved for how else could he be the great person he was without that love... I grieve with you and hope you can heal with time. I would like to think that Ray can hear us and knows our thoughts and prayers are with him...
To know Ray was to know kindness, goodness, generosity, and dedication.
I had the special privilege of working and sitting directly next to Ray at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York for the past five years. Over those too-short years, Ray and I... moreTo know Ray was to know kindness, goodness, generosity, and dedication.
I had the special privilege of working and sitting directly next to Ray at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York for the past five years. Over those too-short years, Ray and I partnered together in tackling truly consequential challenges facing the US and global financial system. Not only did Ray bring his intellectual rigor and dedication to the public good, he combined this with his deep empathy, his ability to listen to others’ points of view, his open mindedness, and his willingness to challenge the status quo in seeking solutions to these often multi-faceted issues. As a result, Ray earned tremendous respect, trust, and credibility not only within and across the Federal Reserve System, but also among countless central bankers around the world and among all those with whom he engaged — including those he oversaw — in the private sector.
But Ray was not “all about work!” Ray was always attuned to the humanity of those around him. Whether sharing recipes, vacation plans, or family developments, Ray was always a ready and caring colleague and friend, and I am blessed to be able to count myself among them. Ray was taken much too soon from all of us, and I will miss him deeply.
I send my heartfelt condolences to Juan Carlos, to his parents, to his siblings, and to all his nieces and nephews. I pray that your loving memories of Ray will be a comfort and a blessing to you, today and always. less
My heart breaks at the thought of Ray no longer among us. I met him in a most unusual way, after receiving a letter of support for my restoration project. In that letter he said he wanted to know who on Earth was as crazy as him as to engage in the... moreMy heart breaks at the thought of Ray no longer among us. I met him in a most unusual way, after receiving a letter of support for my restoration project. In that letter he said he wanted to know who on Earth was as crazy as him as to engage in the restoration of a building from 1738. I will forever treasure the kind words of support he gave at the township’s hearing. I later met him and Juan Carlos at their gorgeous home in Barto, where he shared a cup of the finest German wine I have ever tasted. He later introduced me to St. Matthew’s Passion by Bach, which he called the most moving piece of music ever written. Only a few months ago he asked recommendations for a Fed colleague of his that was coming to Mexico City. He was very intrigued and we agreed that I would take him and Juan Carlos to all the museums and cafés I recommended but this is not to be. I send my warmest condolences to Juan Carlos, family and friends. We lost a great man. less
My husband Ranesh and I had the enormous pleasure of knowing Ray first through Immigration Equality, where I chaired the board when Ray first joined and Ranesh later served during his incredibly dedicated leadership. Getting to know Juan Carlos and... moreMy husband Ranesh and I had the enormous pleasure of knowing Ray first through Immigration Equality, where I chaired the board when Ray first joined and Ranesh later served during his incredibly dedicated leadership. Getting to know Juan Carlos and attend their wedding with our son, Christopher, was a highlight of recent years - a fairy tale culmination of so much we helped fight for over decades.
While we moved away to Boston, I continued to meet Ray at least once a year to talk politics and share our personal stories and aspirations. We talked a few times this year about the political winds of change and the possibilities for progress. His talent and insights were always so valuable and cherished.
Our deepest condolences to JC and the rest of Ray's family in this incredibly sad moment, ensconced in a dreadfully challenging time that keeps us apart in body if not in spirit. We believe in the power of love, of togetherness and solidarity in the fight for all Ray believed in. Please call on us if we can be a comfort, an ally, a friend.
What more could a "good" person wish than to leave the world a legacy of honour, decency and kindness. Touching the lives of all of those who had the good fortune of knowing him.
The best of us (my capital markets partner at Milbank, and later... moreWhat more could a "good" person wish than to leave the world a legacy of honour, decency and kindness. Touching the lives of all of those who had the good fortune of knowing him.
The best of us (my capital markets partner at Milbank, and later my trusted friend as an artist), rounded, intelligent, compassionate, humble and good humoured but inside a calm exterior an inner steel, eyebrow raised and the confidence of someone who really knew and sometimes (subtly spoke) his considerable mind. We feel his loss now, but the memories of a special, special, friend will live on. Always.
On behalf of CLS, we write to express our heartfelt condolences for your loss. All of us at CLS were shocked and saddened to hear of Ray's sudden passing, and we would like to convey our deepest sympathies to you and the entire family. Ray was a... moreOn behalf of CLS, we write to express our heartfelt condolences for your loss. All of us at CLS were shocked and saddened to hear of Ray's sudden passing, and we would like to convey our deepest sympathies to you and the entire family. Ray was a wonderful friend and advisor to CLS, and we greatly benefited from his guidance and wisdom.
For the past several years, Ray was an integral part of our interaction with the Federal Reserve. Ray was always thoughtful and fair in expressing his views and in managing relations with the other 22 central banks that he chaired as part of our oversight committee. What drove Ray was doing whatever was best for global financial stability. He approached every meeting and discussion with interest and perspective, always embracing a key role in making the financial markets a safer and more efficient place. Ray was a remarkable man who truly made a difference for us at CLS, and even more so for financial markets more generally. His remarkable contributions using his deep legal background has helped in building the heart of our global financial markets, which have proven strong even through the financial crisis we faced in recent years. He fully embraced what the purpose of CLS should be - for the good of all.
Please accept our sincere condolences. While we cannot be together to pay tribute to him, be assured that our prayers will accompany him and you in these difficult moments. Ray's legacy will be a lasting impact, and he will be dearly missed.
Sincerely yours,
Kenneth Harvey, Chairman
Marc Bayle de Jesse, Chief Executive Officer less
Ray was a partner in the capital markets team at Linklaters when I was head of the practice between 2003 and 2008. He spent much of that time as our US lawyer in Frankfurt where his all round legal, language and inter personal skills made him a very... moreRay was a partner in the capital markets team at Linklaters when I was head of the practice between 2003 and 2008. He spent much of that time as our US lawyer in Frankfurt where his all round legal, language and inter personal skills made him a very popular guy amongst the tram there and its clients.
Ray was an intelligent, kind, measured, sensible and thoughtful man and one for whom I had a great deal of respect and affection.
We had loosely kept in touch post Linklaters and he was clearly, once again, demonstrating his all round capabilities in his new career.
An untimely and premature end for one who still had so much to give.
You will be missed and fondly remembered by very many, Ray.
Nick Eastwell. less
Ray was 15 years older than me – an age difference that made him an intriguing and mysterious figure to 5-year-old me and that seemed to shrink to nearly nothing as I got older and many of our interests and passions started to align.
Our first real... moreRay was 15 years older than me – an age difference that made him an intriguing and mysterious figure to 5-year-old me and that seemed to shrink to nearly nothing as I got older and many of our interests and passions started to align.
Our first real interaction that I remember took place at his parents’ house. Ray was home from college, and we were debating the merits of Yasser Arafat. I was espousing some opinions that I’m sure he disagreed with and that I’m also sure I heard my dad say. 😊 He gently engaged with me but didn’t change or soften his viewpoint. This moment was formative for me. I think it is important for children to realize there are other perspectives out there, other cultures, other ways of doing things. It sparks their curiosity and expands their thinking. It isn’t necessary to agree with all those perspectives, but it is valuable to know they exist.
We kept in touch and saw each other whenever possible. I always knew Ray cared about me and he was a safe person to talk to and share with. He encouraged me and praised my accomplishments. I got to stay with Ray and JC in NYC during college when I was in town for a Model UN conference. They took me out for what would become the first of many late-night city dinners over our time together. Although now this is exactly how I live my life, it was eye opening then. “All of these people are still awake!” I felt so cosmopolitan.
I had the opportunity to visit Ray and JC in London and in Frankfurt – both amazing trips that formed lifelong memories. In particular the weekend trip we took together to Berlin was very impactful.
Ray was clearly a strong influence on my life and a dear friend and confidant. His many professional accomplishments are certainly impressive and motivating. His brilliant mind was special. What I will miss most are all the moments where I was privileged enough to feel his love, share a cocktail, share a meal, laugh and talk with him, and bask in the warmth of his generosity and goodness.
I will feel his absence for the rest of my life, but I’m so happy he was part of my life. less